How To Survive As A Single Mom

by Shalonda Gordon in Motivation,Single Mom

How To Survive As A Single Mom!

There are many times when I get the statement.. “I don’t know how you do it!” Notice it’s a statement.. it’s not a question.. it’s not a request.. it requires no response.  It simply is the other person expressing what they do not know.  I remember when I would respond with.. “What do you mean.. it’s all I know!” See I’ve been a Single Mom since day one! Then one day I sat and really thought about the statement and the negative flare behind it.. “I don’t know HOW YOU do it!”.. I mean who says that???? Really…. which leads me to how we survive as Single Moms.. sometimes we have to simply shut people down.. When a person makes this statement to me now.. I look at them and say.. Why you telling me about things YOU DON’T know?? I place that negative flare back at them.  Most of the people that say it do not actually hear what they said until I respond.. then they start fumbling over their words.. like they didn’t mean that.. they just meant.. you know what I’m talking about. I simply laugh and change the subject.  See I don’t speak about being a Single Mom with anyone who can not edify the situation.  What do I mean by edify.  If I’m talking to a non-Single Mom about being a Single Mom it must have positive undertones, for I do not entertain negative ones.. we get enough of that in this world.

Is It Hard To Survive As A Single Mom?

single momFor me personally, I believe being a parent in general has it’s ups and downs.. I mean if a married mom of 2 has a child in a car accident and she is waiting at the hospital bed side waiting for her baby to wake up.. this is a hard situation to survive. It all depends on how you look at life.  It all depends on how you view survival.

It is hard to survive as a single mom if you decide to make it hard.  If you make a decision that you are a survivor.. well guess what.. YOU ARE A SURVIVOR. And this is for the any experience in life.

I consider being a Single Mom a blessing. I’ve been a parent for 11 years and there is a joy that comes from raising my daughters.  Are there hard times?? Yes.. yet let’s be honest.. I had hard times way before I became a Mom.. and I’m sure many reading this post know what I’m speaking about.

We Survive As A Single Mom By Making a Decision That We Will Survive

Rather things are hard or not.. we must decide that we are strong enough to live the life that has been dealt us.  We must except that we are blessings.  We must except that we were chosen for this journey.  Once a decision is made.. I recommend you enjoy every second of it. As I look at my girls.. I realize that if I blink! I will miss something.. because they grow and change every day. I’ll take survival as a single mom over survival of other things any day.

Keep Smiling,



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I love this post Shalonda! You are absolutely right. I believe positive supporting words should be handed to anyone raising a child or children in a 1 parent household. Compassion and love. No one has to judge/clarify HOW its getting done but that a child is benefiting in the process. A child that may one day be the President. Which is why its so important we understand the affect we all have. You Rock!

Tanisha Ajokatcher

being a single mom can be challenging this is life we all go through it…. im a single married mom since hubby is always at work… but i love my kids and i know you do .. its really rewarding to be a mom whether married or single….. its God gift…thx for this
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